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Working Relationship Planner

One working relationship, in ten minutes

How this tool worksOne working relationship in ten minutes: name the person, tap what gets in the way and get a concrete move for it, pick two starter habits, and for a particular moment get the words from the matching page and a map.Hide

One working relationship in ten minutes: name the person, tap what gets in the way and get a concrete move for it, pick two starter habits, and for a particular moment get the words from the matching page and a map.

Use it when

Use it for the colleague, manager or report who makes work harder than it should be, or for a moment you need to handle well: a disagreement, criticism of your work, owning up to a mistake, being talked over, a line crossed. A pay rise or a promotion is the Career tool; a conversation you lead with your team is the Leadership tool.

How to use it

  1. Name the person and the moment. Who it is, who they are to you, and whether this is a particular moment or just a relationship you want to go better.
  2. What gets in the way. Tap up to two of ten. Each answers back with a concrete move, and both moves go on your plan.
  3. Two starter habits. Tap up to two ways of working on it, then two habits from them. Two, not six: put them in your calendar now, while you still mean it.
  4. Your words and your map. For a particular moment: how you will open and the one thing you most need to say, borrowed from the page or written from scratch, a which-would-you-say pair, then a four-line map with your habits underneath. For no particular moment, a plan card and the links.

What you'll come away with

A concrete move for each thing that gets in the way, two starter habits, and for a particular moment a conversation map you can copy or print, with links to the matching What to say page, the rehearsal and the Building Workplace Relationships module.

About 10 minutesNothing is saved unless you turn on 'Keep my draft on this device'; then your answers stay in this browser only, and are deleted when you turn it off, clear the plan, or after 14 days.

Step 1 of 4

One working relationship

Name the person and what this is about. A particular moment brings the words for it; no particular moment brings the habits.

Initials are fine. It goes on your map.

What is this about?

Tap one and the tool answers back.

Off unless you turn it on. Your answers stay in this browser only and are never sent anywhere. They’re deleted when you turn this off, press Start again, or after 14 days. If someone else uses or checks this device, leave it off.