Long-Term Love Planner
Stay close for the long haul
How this tool worksA planner for committed couples who want to stay close for the long haul. You name where you are and what you share, choose the rituals and one small habit for this week, and agree a check-in rhythm.Hide
A planner for committed couples who want to stay close for the long haul. You name where you are and what you share, choose the rituals and one small habit for this week, and agree a check-in rhythm.
Use it when
Use it when life has settled into routine and you want to be more deliberate about your relationship, before a big change such as moving in, marrying or having children, or once a year as a relationship tune-up. It works best with both of you at the table.
How to use it
- Where you are. Choose your stage, and if you like say what you most want to protect and what you are building together.
- Agree on what matters. Pick your shared values, non-negotiables, and how each of you feels most loved.
- Choose your rituals and one habit. Tap the daily, weekly, monthly and yearly rituals you will actually keep, then one small habit for this week from the Relationship Building module: a love-map question, a specific appreciation, a bid turned towards.
- Plan for growth. Choose where you want to grow and name the challenges that might test you.
- Make it stick. Set how often you will check in, plan dates and adventures, and agree when you would ask for help.
- Keep your plan. Read the whole plan on one page, then copy or download it to revisit together.
What you'll come away with
A shared love plan on one page: where you are, your values and needs, the rituals you have agreed on and this week's habit, how you will grow, and a check-in rhythm to keep it all going.
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Your shared picture
Start with where you are and what you share. A shared picture helps you pull in the same direction.
Best done side by side with your partner and a cuppa. Fill in the answers together.
Choose the stage that best describes you to continue.