Friendship Planner
Someone new, a friend to get closer to, a falling-out, or one you don't want to lose
How this tool worksPlan one friendship conversation: someone you'd like to know better, a friend you'd like to be closer to, a falling-out to mend, or a friend you don't want to drift from.Hide
Plan one friendship conversation: someone you'd like to know better, a friend you'd like to be closer to, a falling-out to mend, or a friend you don't want to drift from.
Use it when
Reach for it when a friendship needs a move you keep putting off: an invitation to someone new, going first with a friend who has stayed on the surface, raising something a friend did, or getting back in touch after a long gap. Tap what it is about and the conversation, and the tool brings the lines from the matching What to say page and what the Friends Pack module says about that kind of moment.
How to use it
- Pick the friendship. Tap what this is about (someone new, closer, a falling-out, or one you don't want to lose), then the conversation. The tool answers back with where its lines come from.
- Work the branch. Someone new: where you know them from, then an invitation for each rung from easy to more involved. Closer: slide where it is and where you want it, and the gap picks the approach, then tap the moments you could make. A falling-out: what happened and whose part each piece is, both sides, how to approach them. Drifting: ways of staying in touch you could keep up, then a rhythm you can keep.
- Write your words. Your opening line and the one thing to say, borrowed from the page or written from scratch. On the falling-out branch, what you hope for, a plan B, and the lines to steer clear of.
- Practise, then take the map. Read your opening out loud, pick the line you would say in a which-would-you-say pair, rehearse it with Chatty, then copy or print your conversation map: open with, the one thing to say, if it goes badly, how to end.
What you'll come away with
A conversation map you can copy or print (four lines, with your invitation, your approach, your part to own, or your rhythm underneath), and links to the What to say page and the Friends Pack module it draws on. On the drifting branch, a rhythm card and a calendar entry for the first touch.
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Which friendship?
Tap what this is about, then the conversation. The tool answers back, and your map is built from that page's own lines.
What is this about?
Initials are fine. It goes on your rhythm card and your map.
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