Dating Conversation Builder
Plan what to talk about on a date
How this tool worksHelps you prepare the conversation side of a date: what suits this stage, topics you would enjoy, and what to say at the opening, in a lull and at goodbye.Hide
Helps you prepare the conversation side of a date: what suits this stage, topics you would enjoy, and what to say at the opening, in a lull and at goodbye.
Use it when
Use it the day before or the afternoon of a date, especially a first or early one, or when things are getting more serious and the conversations need to go deeper. It suits anyone who goes blank when nervous, or who wants to find out whether you fit rather than just fill the silence.
How to use it
- Say where you are up to. Choose how far along you are and where you are going. Each stage shows what suits now and what can wait.
- Decide what you are hoping for. Tick what you would like from the conversation, and note what you would love to learn and share.
- Pick topics. Tap the topics you would enjoy, see what is best saved for later at this stage, and write a few ways in.
- Choose your style. Pick playful, curious, open or adventurous, and think about keeping the energy up and handling nerves.
- Plan the tricky moments. Draft your opening, what to do in a lull or when a topic falls flat, and how to say goodbye.
- Keep your plan. Review it on one page, then copy, download or print it to read before you head out.
What you'll come away with
A short date plan with topics and questions in your own words, a list of what to save for later, and ready lines for the opening, the lulls and the goodbye.
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Where you're up to
Choose how far along you are, then say where you're going. It decides which topics suit now and which can wait.
Choose how far along you are to continue.